“Hold Off, Is This a night out together?”: A Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Welcome to
“Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date”
the podcast about queer relationship you won’t ever realized you usually needed, organized by me personally, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was created out of Drew and I also’s common passion for vocals memos and deep talks about matchmaking. We have been delivering both sound memos for just over a year today, heading deeply from the circumstances Drew loves about dating (men and women! enjoyable! flirting!) and the things I dislike about dating (folks! Fun! Flirting!). We were having lots of fun, thoughtful, and insightful conversations and honestly, it felt rude to rob the higher general public of those!

Consider united states as your friendly area co-hosts, guiding you through awesome specific queer relationship conundrums because truly, straight internet dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG tales? How will you take long, drawn-out flirting one step further? What does it imply to think people are into you? We’ll talk to some of Autostraddle’s best authors, play some awesome certain games, document on our pop culture crushes of the moment not to mention, make an effort to respond to the eternal question of your times:

Wait…is this a date???

Tune in to the intro below and whet urge for food, immediately after which smash that “subscribe” key wherever fine podcasts tend to be distributed, hence guaranteeing you a wonderful August 11th, after first official episode drops!

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. And this is

Wait, Is This a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast definitely focused on issue, “Wait, is it a night out together?”

Drew:

I am thus excited to discover.

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Christina:

Yeah. I believe we’ve been on a quest to discover exactly what are times and just what are not times, as friends, but also as a people, I think.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we inform those queers and lesbians just what our very own entire indealment is, like that which we’re up to within this moment?

Drew:

Like just who the audience is?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I can get initially. I’m Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, the internet site. I actually do most film and television feedback, and sex and online dating writing, and personal essays, and points that combine all of those things. I’m trans I am also a lesbian, and I also feel like i ought to add a third thing because everything is in threes. Just what more? Just what else?

Christina:

Situations would go on threes. You’ve got fantastic tresses.

Drew:

Oh, thanks a lot.

Christina:

You may have amazing hair, I think that’s vital.

Drew:

Those tend to be my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic hair.

Christina:

Those are your own identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I always said that you’re a lady of hair knowledge. I usually said that about yourself.

Drew:

Yeah. This really is important.

Christina:

Yeah. I am Christina Tucker. I am in addition an author at Autostraddle, as much as possible accept is as true, which writes about… oh, let us only say whatever pops into the mind. Which is truly the feeling. Also a lesbian. I Am Black. I am not sure exactly who otherwise Im.

Drew:

You will also have fantastic locks.

Christina:

Ok last one, no, What i’m saying is, i believe this will be perhaps a podcast of locks knowledge. Possibly which should be all of our tagline, “a podcast of hair experience.” I assume individuals are most likely wondering the way we reached this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every best part in daily life — and by that What i’m saying is, really, few — it began as a highdea, as something I sent you in a voice memo, large. And returning beyond that, we started delivering vocals memos to one another in the very beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am merely likely to show like emotions that You will find, and after that you can go after that and reply to myself, perhaps not respond to myself, whatever. I am similar to, this can be me personally becoming drive and obvious. Okay. I’m some body who… i enjoy discussing online dating. It’s one of my major subject areas of dialogue. You will find today mentioned my personal portion.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks for saying the part. Also, six minutes and 54 moments. Honestly, rather impressive for you to get that in that length of time. We hardly ever really think of internet dating. In my opinion, maybe, an opposite feeling of your love to consider internet dating and discuss matchmaking and, like, be internet dating. I do believe those are my personal views. Well, i am giving a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length sound memo now. I’ll deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I’m sure you don’t consider matchmaking, not everything myself, perhaps around others I’m sure?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I do believe about matchmaking lower than very nearly anyone I additionally understand. I’m not sure. I truly have no idea easily’ve fulfilled anybody would youn’t contemplate internet dating as much as I would or in so far as I you shouldn’t, i suppose.

Drew:

We didn’t actually know each other. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but also for people who don’t know, Autostraddle is actually an online a workplace. It’s a lot more of a Slack situation than a, we all appear to like lesbian headquarters as well as briefcases. That is not really the feeling. We don’t really know each other. Then, the start of pandemic, there was clearly some DM sliding several friendship building plus some voice memoing. And we also would always joke that it was like we’d a podcast because we might send these lengthy sound memos. Right after which whenever I ended up being stoned, I became similar, “We in fact should.” And right here the audience is.

Christina:

Yeah. I am aware everything you indicate by high some ideas never being ideal ideas, but I do have a really obvious recollection of hearing you claim that being like, “Yeah, naturally we must have a podcast. We are carrying out for each and every different. Why-not receive other folks engrossed?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Usually my large a few ideas are things like, “Oh my God, there ought to be a TV program known as

Find The Superstar Twin,

where you just take a high profile right after which they satisfy a person who — like an arbitrary individual that has actually their exact same delivery chart. That also, is among my personal high a few ideas that I think was fantastic. Its like…

Christina:

Yeah, to start with, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

That is a no cost one. I don’t care and attention.

Christina:

No, it is not. Drew, I’m obtaining you cash, i will become your cash supervisor for that. Absolutely not.

Drew:

I just need to see these things worldwide. Basically, this is certainly a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. Plus one reason exactly why its that topic, in the place of a variety of other things Christina and I also speak about, is really because I like internet dating and Christina does not love internet dating and that’s an enjoyable little.

Christina:

A reduced amount of a fan.

Drew:

And dispute is truly… this is where drama occurs. I believe Socrates asserted that.

Christina:

Definitely.

Drew:

And that’s why that is all of our subject. We will cover all sorts of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We are going to discuss all of the greatest queer internet dating conundrums, internet dating via Instagram.

Drew, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Correct me if I’m incorrect, but i do believe Instagram is best queer online dating app.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

1000 per cent. It is the best.

Christina, in audio clip from potential episode:

I heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in audio clip from potential episode:

Positively. It gives you you practically all you need, unless somebody’s private. But even although you’re private, baby, I’ll learn all about you, some sort of means.

Drew, in audio clip from future event:

We are going to explore the most effective gender we have had.

Dani, in sound clip from future episode:

Right after which At long last asked like, “No, did you run-over right here for gender? Are we planning to have sexual intercourse?” And additionally they had been like, “Yeah, that’s what I wanted.” Therefore was like, the cat together with puppy were inside the room and there was actually cat-and-dog hair every where. And that I had been like, certainly having an allergic effect while we were making love. The orgasm was, like, cook’s hug. It absolutely was the most wonderful experience.

Drew, in audio clip from potential event:

Wow.

Christina, in audio clip from future episode:

We ponder whether it’s something about the hives that really included. Like just a little ‘jenesequa’ compared to that climax encounter. It absolutely was like, “Ooh, i am a tiny bit itchy also.” We ponder simply how much that elements. We’re talking about how to split with people.

Ro, in audio clip from future occurrence:

It feels like a tremendously right culture thing, also.

Christina, in sound clip from potential event:

Yeah.

Ro, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

At the very least in my experience, i’m like… My personal direct pals are those that very likely to state, “Well, shag that person. That person sucks,” basically finish a relationship with somebody. Whereas, queer folks in living are those that prone to preserve friendships with exes or perhaps see all of our exes in a holistic method.

Christina, in audio clip from potential episode:

Whatever you could think about in a matchmaking podcast, and that I’m not browsing rest for you people, additionally more. Over you could potentially actually ever think of.

Drew, in sound video from potential episode:

If you are sexting via book, is-it like what you want them… have you been carrying out role-plays of a situation, like “you’re coming in contact with me personally at this time” or “I wish you were touching,” just what tense are we in?

Kayla, in audio clip from potential event:

Yeah, I found myself browsing ask equivalent concern, actually, because that’s a thing that’s always fascinating in my experience, specifically even though many of us are article writers, also.

Christina, in sound clip from future event:

I found myself planning state, several people fancy, “exactly what tight tend to be we functioning?”

Kayla, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Standpoint.

Christina, in audio video from future event:

It’s a detailed next, what exactly is happening right here?

Kayla, in sound clip from future event:

Like, strictly next?

Drew:

Here is the thing about queer folks. Without a doubt.

Christina:

Okay. Pull up a chair. Introducing the TED Talk. Why don’t we set off.

Drew:

We so many encounters and are generally a lot more fascinating. Only whenever I look at the manner in which right people speak about matchmaking, it is therefore monotonous. And I think so typically, queer matchmaking talks are extensions on the conventional internet dating discussion, but incorporating things such as “coming out” and “very first time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” It really is like — absolutely much more nuance in so many more… It really is very exciting. Just what a world that it is, queer sex and queer dating.

Christina:

We have now used like the really traditional particular dull construction of heterosexual relationship and extremely brought it into a globe, full of extended conversations and processing our emotions. It really is amazing work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am truly excited and I wish everybody tend to be thrilled, because the first episode is released each week from today and then, there will end up being new symptoms every Wednesday.

Christina:

This has been 1 week and soon you’ll notice our podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not just get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you’ll receive

Wait, So Is This A Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I co-host both, when you can’t stand myself, i assume you’re not listening to Autostraddle podcasts. And when you do like me, you’re pleasant.

Christina:

Additionally, if you don’t like Drew, become adults, is what i must say.

Drew:

I am not for all, I’m ok with that. I do believe it should be best that you not for everybody.

Christina:

Certain. In my opinion that’s completely fair. And perhaps a topic we could talk about on a single of one’s future attacks. What takes place when you are perhaps not for everyone? I appreciated that We went like, “Ooh, why don’t we get this all inclusive.” What will happen once you, we, as men and women. You stated, let’s perform a complete occurrence about, “imagine if I’m not for all?”

Drew:

Really, it’s Leo period and that I’m a Leo rising and I also decided which makes it about my self. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. Thank you quite.

Drew:

We have been twin Leo risings about this podcast, and that’s element of exactly why it will likely be great. Possible tune in to united states wherever you tune in to the podcast. It’s going to be a fairly regular podcast situation. Nothing elegant, no riddles must be fixed to get the occurrence, it’s going to be right there for you.

Christina:

Simply not the manager people. There are many choices, would what you should.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you can find us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you may email you at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you may discover me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my title in our tense.

Christina:

We have looked over your social media addresses millionaires are often and I have never, until this moment, knew that it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Well that’s the thing, Drew was used and I have no idea how… Oh, I was dating somebody which actually… Actually this person exactly who I dated, I didn’t get a lot regarding that connection, except we said this notion and she believed it absolutely was thus funny, like also funny, seriously, like the main issue, In my opinion maybe. And I also was actually encouraged to do so, following it is simply caught.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Often folks think i am a visual singer and you also know what, i enjoy end up being looked at this way, but i can not, Really don’t genuinely have drawing skills.

Christina:

I’ll say there is nothing on brand name for Drew than getting want, “Oh, that is the Twitter handle.” Therefore being similar, “in fact, it is a funny tale about online dating.”

Drew:

Certainly, precisely.

Christina:

Perfect.

Drew:

Just what are your personal handles, and they are they linked to your passionate existence?

Christina:

Merely, no. You might get me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the website. Whenever you should discover me personally on Instagram, you can do so, at @christina_gracet. And it is actually fearless of me to know personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Incredible work.

Christina:

Thanks a lot such.

Drew:

It’s always a joy to speak with both you and i am very excited to dive into a few of these exciting topics. And our listeners to make the journey to know all of us a little bit much better acquire to… i do believe we are able to all, In my opinion we’re all likely to learn on this subject trip.

Christina:

I hope therefore. I enrolled in understanding.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school length of podcasts. That managed to make it sound like a complete bummer. So sorry.

Drew:

I am not sure. I’d some really great college courses.

Christina:

Certainly, I did as well, but Really Don’t need to make anyone—

Drew:

Can you envisage exactly how remarkable it would be in the event that you turned up your college course and either folks ended up being the professor, or we taught a category together, that’d become hottest thing ever. Folks could be like…

Christina:

Hottest violation in the city. Enrollment is actually off of the information.

Drew:

Oh, we must have an event that’s aimed at hot teachers. That is not pertinent.

Christina:

That is not maybe not pertinent. I’ll point out that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. Personally I think like there might be — you should make it slightly broader, but that knows? That knows what’s going to be in the future, that is certainly actually exciting. Therefore know who will know? You, listener, when you listen in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You stay tuned and you also crucially struck that old subscribe switch and you will hang out with our team every Wednesday and have yourself, “Understanding a night out together?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That brings myself to… I am not sure. I happened to be simply thinking… ended up being this a date?

Christina:

Drew, no. This will be a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, sweet. Okay. Great. Okay. In my opinion I’m having the hang from it while know very well what’s fantastic, usually because I inquired, today i am aware, and today directly in interaction is actually exactly what it’s about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

And something that many people in the neighborhood could learn. And wewill, ideally, this is really something. This is certainly less of a podcast and a lot more of a political act.

Christina:

Wow. I wasn’t aware of that, but i am thrilled to understand that we’re having both a podcast and a political work. Two of my personal favorite situations. A couple of the best things to start with P, podcasts and governmental acts.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I think my instinct is when I really like a person and I want them inside my existence, i am aware the very best way for me to keep them within my life is to make them a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m simply therefore grateful we’ve become these types of friends. Assuming from quarantine, that’s what occurred, I made this unique new pal, whom i really like dearly and that I’m just delighted to speak with you usually, like exactly what a gift.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I’d an idea and it also went out. It absolutely was honestly most likely truly brilliant.